Beating one’s head against the wall:))

She was telling me about her husband, who is an alcoholic. He works when he wants money for it or if he does not want to work he pesters his wife for money. She has tried everything possible to get him out of the habit but it has been like beating her head against the wall. Every time he tells that he will stop drinking but after a few days it is back to square one. She is the one who has worked hard for the survival of the family, his income would have helped but most of it literally went down the drain.

Beating one’s head against the wall- such an expressive phrase, just listening to it or reading it, we can picture the futility of trying to fight a mental block or a mindset. They are as thick and as hard as walls , difficult to break them down. A wall can be brought down but a mindset cannot be changed unless the person wants to change it. Whatever anyone says about it is like pouring water on a round stone. Everything falls away. Such people are just not ready to accept the other persons’ thinking. They are very rigid in the belief that they are right and understanding other people is beyond them but the interesting point is that they firmly believe that they understand everyone, that is according to their way of thinking. Dealing with such people is literally beating one’s head against the wall, there is frustration, then irritation and then anger, but it is all a waste of precious emotions. Lastly, there is resignation, some give in, letting those people live their own lives according to their way of thinking.And some go on beating their heads against the wall.

“Life may not be the party we hoped for, but while we’re here we should dance. ” ~Author Unknown


The photo is of a natural stone wall, we saw by the side of the highway, while returning from Mumbai.


By Lakshmi Bhat

I am a person who believes there is not enough darkness in the world to extinguish the light of a small candle. We live in a small place in South India. I love reading, blogging, stitching, traveling, photography, listening to people and many other things which make life so very nice and interesting. Blogging is a fun experience, it has brought me into contact with people in different parts of the world and it is good to read about their everyday life. In spite of the differences there is a sameness which is fascinating. I have learnt and am learning something everyday. I have learnt to write haikus. I enjoy combining the thought and the number of syllables. I have always read books and I was happy to write short fiction. I had thought I would not be able to do so. Stream of Consciousness and photo challenges are fun too. Yes, there is so much in life that is sad and that hurts us. Many a time I wonder why life is so unfair to so many. We all have problems in life but the problems of many seems unbearable. This makes me feel so helpless. It is not possible to help everyone but we can do our bit, we can do something to help some in whatever way we can. Due to the pandemic I could not go to the Home for the mentally challenged for two years. I had been going there since 2011. I have started going again. I was happy that some members remembered me :) All of them are an important part of my life. There have been many challenges in life and we have faced them with a positive approach. Our grandson and granddaughter have made our lives richer.

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