She was telling me about her husband, who is an alcoholic. He works when he wants money for it or if he does not want to work he pesters his wife for money. She has tried everything possible to get him out of the habit but it has been like beating her head against the wall. Every time he tells that he will stop drinking but after a few days it is back to square one. She is the one who has worked hard for the survival of the family, his income would have helped but most of it literally went down the drain.
Beating one’s head against the wall- such an expressive phrase, just listening to it or reading it, we can picture the futility of trying to fight a mental block or a mindset. They are as thick and as hard as walls , difficult to break them down. A wall can be brought down but a mindset cannot be changed unless the person wants to change it. Whatever anyone says about it is like pouring water on a round stone. Everything falls away. Such people are just not ready to accept the other persons’ thinking. They are very rigid in the belief that they are right and understanding other people is beyond them but the interesting point is that they firmly believe that they understand everyone, that is according to their way of thinking. Dealing with such people is literally beating one’s head against the wall, there is frustration, then irritation and then anger, but it is all a waste of precious emotions. Lastly, there is resignation, some give in, letting those people live their own lives according to their way of thinking.And some go on beating their heads against the wall.
“Life may not be the party we hoped for, but while we’re here we should dance. ” ~Author Unknown
The photo is of a natural stone wall, we saw by the side of the highway, while returning from Mumbai.