Memories so sweet

I think most of us have memories of certain things or people or something prepared by our close ones, which we consider as precious. We believe that anything similar can never come up to that standard.

My mother makes a sweet dessert from semolina and sugar and coconut which I think is best in the world. Prepared by anyone else just does not measure up to what my mother prepares. My children feel the same way about the ‘thove’ she prepares from ‘ toor dal’. They always ask her to make it for them.

We were talking about our memories recently. Our grandson and daughter had come for a short visit, to attend her best friend’s wedding. My parents too had come to enjoy the company of their great grandson. We all enjoyed his presence. All that he did was so very sweet. In later years they are going to be precious memories. My father was telling about his mother who passed away when he was only twelve. He has very few memories of her. He is now 83 but still remembers the taste of the sweet dessert she used to prepare from foxtail millet, jaggery and coconut milk. He grew up in the northern part of our state where millets are a staple diet . In the south we do not use them much. My mother had prepared the same dessert but my father says the one prepared by his mother was something special, no one could ever make it the same way. My mother does not mind because she has similar memories. 🙂 He wonders why he is so sure about the taste when his mother had been with him only for twelve years.

My father in law has similar memories . A certain sweet dessert prepared long ago by a relative is the best, according to him nobody can prepare it like that. He waxes eloquent about that taste.

I don’t know whether we look back through rose coloured spectacles and keep on adding something to that experience or are our memories so very clear? My mother tells me about her father. He was a special person and a loving grandfather. He loved to have his family around him. During our summer vacations , every evening we used to sit together and talk. Those were fun days and are sweet memories now. I hope our grandson will enjoy the company of his great grandparents for many more years and in later years will have sweet memories of them.

“Nothing is ever really lost to us as long as we remember it.”
― L.M. Montgomery, The Story Girl

memories so sweet

By Lakshmi Bhat

I am a person who believes there is not enough darkness in the world to extinguish the light of a small candle. We live in a small place in South India. I love reading, blogging, stitching, traveling, photography, listening to people and many other things which make life so very nice and interesting. Blogging is a fun experience, it has brought me into contact with people in different parts of the world and it is good to read about their everyday life. In spite of the differences there is a sameness which is fascinating. I have learnt and am learning something everyday. I have learnt to write haikus. I enjoy combining the thought and the number of syllables. I have always read books and I was happy to write short fiction. I had thought I would not be able to do so. Stream of Consciousness and photo challenges are fun too. Yes, there is so much in life that is sad and that hurts us. Many a time I wonder why life is so unfair to so many. We all have problems in life but the problems of many seems unbearable. This makes me feel so helpless. It is not possible to help everyone but we can do our bit, we can do something to help some in whatever way we can. I go to the Home for the Mentally challenged in our campus twice a week. I have been going there since 2011. The members are an important part of my life. I did not go there in 2020. I started going in February but I have not been there for a month now because the number of Covid cases are increasing. There have been so many changes in our life, we will always remember the year 2020. There have been many challenges in life and we have faced them with a positive approach. Our grandson and granddaughter have made life so much more richer.

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