The Bulbuls

In the month of February we saw bulbuls busy building their nests. They were busy from morning to evening. Two birds decided that the space between the tube-light and its holder, in our mukhamantapa, an ideal place. The above Kannada word refers to a verandah enclosed with grills. The grills are wide enough for the couple to fly in and out. We watched the pair with despair. The tube-light was smooth and their nest just could never have stayed there. They were busy the whole day bringing dry leaves and twigs. They tried to fix them in their chosen place but the material kept falling down. They did not give up for almost two weeks. We were worried and tried everything to stop them from wasting their time.

A few years ago two bulbuls had tried to build a nest on the rod by the side of the wash basin. I really did not understand how they thought they could build a nest there. They used to fly in through one window. I closed that window and they would fly in through another. For some days we did not open the windows. They gave up. But here in the verandah we could do nothing. My husband made a small bowl with the sheath of the areca leaf. We tied it to the grill, hoping the birds would like it. But they were not interested. We were worried if there would be enough time for them to build another nest. I knew it was no use worrying because we could do nothing. They have to learn when to give up and choose the next option.

In our lives too we learn from our mistakes. As a parent I think I must have rushed to the recuse of my children when I thought what they were doing was not really going to help them. It is difficult to stand by and watch our children take steps that we think may not be the correct ones. I don’t remember now if I acted thus when our children were growing up. I must ask my children. We must have; it is but natural. It is amusing that most of us believe we know better.

We take so many decisions depending on our way of thinking at that moment. I don’t remember the exact words but someone said that we learn whether our decisions were correct or not only after we have travelled quite a distance. And if we learnt that our decision was not the correct one, would we have the courage to take a new path, or would we keep blaming ourselves? In hindsight it is easy to be wise and all-knowing. All these thoughts came to mind as I watched the two birds vainly trying to build their nest where it would have been impossible for it to have been secure.

I wonder where they built their nest. Did they have enough time to build a new one? I will never know the answers to these questions.

“You don’t learn to walk by following rules. You learn by doing, and by falling over.”
― Richard Branson

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By Lakshmi Bhat

I am a person who believes there is not enough darkness in the world to extinguish the light of a small candle. We live in a small place in South India. I love reading, blogging, stitching, traveling, photography, listening to people and many other things which make life so very nice and interesting. Blogging is a fun experience, it has brought me into contact with people in different parts of the world and it is good to read about their everyday life. In spite of the differences there is a sameness which is fascinating. I have learnt and am learning something everyday. I have learnt to write haikus. I enjoy combining the thought and the number of syllables. I have always read books and I was happy to write short fiction. I had thought I would not be able to do so. Stream of Consciousness and photo challenges are fun too. Yes, there is so much in life that is sad and that hurts us. Many a time I wonder why life is so unfair to so many. We all have problems in life but the problems of many seems unbearable. This makes me feel so helpless. It is not possible to help everyone but we can do our bit, we can do something to help some in whatever way we can. I go to the Home for the Mentally challenged in our campus twice a week. I have been going there since 2011. The members are an important part of my life. I did not go there last year. There have been so many changes in our life, we will always remember the year 2020. There have been many challenges in life and we have faced them with a positive approach. Our grandson and granddaughter have made life so much more richer.

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    1. Not acres San, twenty cents. Here we measure land in cents, in some places in square feet. I am not very sure how many cents are there in an acre. Thank you.

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  1. Birds will keep building nests as long as they are fit enough to try it. They are driven by hormones in their bodies and cannot help themselves. The stupid ones never manage to build a nest and have children and God watches and says “What a great invention evolution was!”

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  2. I was thinking about parents who try to remove all obstacles from their children’s paths and never let them learn from their mistakes. There has been a scandal here about parents cheating to get their children into college even though their kids wouldn’t have made it on their own. And they think they are helping their kids!

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      1. I guess that is why they do that because they are scared themselves. I was scared of climbing structures when my daughter was little so I had a friend take her to the park to explore those.

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