We are already in the 4th week of October and it seems surprising to think that days have gone by in spite of so many changes in our daily life. We have become used to these changes though they are not things which we would have willingly accepted in different circumstances. Life teaches us many things.
Yesterday we celebrated our son, Aravind’s birthday. He was born in 1983. Those days seem like a dream now. When he was in his 3rd month we realised that he had some problem with his eyesight. Usually by their 3rd month babies look at their mothers and smile. Aravind was not doing that. There is a history of eye problems in my family. My father’s mother, her one sister and brother had retinitis Pigmentosa and had become blind by the time they were in their twenties.
Our doubts were confirmed. In those initial days we were so anxious and worried. And kept wondering why our son had this problem. Slowly we came to terms with the situation. My husband was my strength and supported me in every way.
I love reading and did not want Aravind to miss out on that world. I started reading to him from the moment he could understand, not only school books but story books. I lived my childhood again with him. I had to give him a lot of attention and was worried that our daughter would feel ignored and left out. But fortunately, that never happened. Only once she asked me why Aravind could not see like others. I explained to her and she accepted it and took life as it came. I think living with Aravind made her study Audiology and Speech language pathology for under-graduation and post-graduation. She was awarded that best out going student. 😊
We live in a small place and this was a boon to Aravind. He was supported by his friends and teachers. His friends of childhood are friends for life. Very rarely was he made to feel that he was different. Though, he must have been troubled by his disability. The talking software, JAWS for his computer made a lot of difference in his life. We can never be completely independent but it is good to be as independent as can be.
After completing BA in our town, he got admission in one the leading institutes of our country, English and Foreign Languages University in Hyderabad for MA. He continued his studies and went on to complete MPhil and PhD in English Literature. He wrote the National Eligibility Test conducted by University grants Commission. He was among the top candidates and was awarded a scholarship till he completed PhD. He was away for eleven years. He completed his PhD in English Literature in 2016 and applied for a job in the University here and got the job. He wanted to go abroad for Post-Doctoral research but due to the present circumstances it has not happened. But I believe when one door closes another opens.
Actually, I was not planning to write all this but thoughts just came and I could not stop writing 😊.
Yesterday evening we went to the temple to Goddess Mahishamardini. We have always gone there at least once a month. But yesterday we were going after eight months ! The Navaratri Festival to Goddess Durga has started and is celebrated across the country but of course the celebrations this year is muted. We were worried there would be a crowd. But it was not so and all were wearing masks. It felt nice to go to the temple.
I had baked a date pudding cake. It came out well. In the evening close friends from our Book Club sent a cake. So Aravind cut two cakes😊. He has achieved many of his dreams in life in spite of his disability and he does not worry about it and he says he does not miss what he never had. He is fine with life and has the confidence to face whatever comes his way in life.
I believe there are only two options when troubles come our way, either run away or face them. For me, running away is not an option at all. When we have to face a problem it is better to face it with a positive attitude. When we do that, we remember only the plus points in life.
English and Foreign Languages University – Wikipedia en.wikipedia.org/wiki/English_and_Foreign_Languages_University