Day 3 of the March SOLSC #Sol 21

I have been going to the home for the mentally challenged since 2011. There was a break last year and a few other times too. I started going there again from the third week of February. Life has not really changed for most of the members. It was good going back.

I met Rekha in 2011. She had just come there. I think she had lost her parents,  her brother and family found her a burden. In those early days she was cheerful and knew a lot of songs and enjoyed singing them. As the days passed she wished to see her brother but he was not interested.  She is life time member and he did not want any responsibility.  Whenever I met her she told me her brother was coming to take her home. As the years passed she has withdrawn into herself. One of the trustees of the Home went to her brother and requested him to take Rekha home, atleast for festivals.  He and his wife refused point-blank. We used  to wonder at their attitude. When she so yearns for their company  why cannot they take her home atleast once or twice a year? How can people be so heartless?
Even after all these years she keeps saying her brother will come the next day.
We know it is not right but sometimes we wish the brother and his wife  will be punished in some way .

In contrast there is Renu who can only make sounds. She came here a few years ago. Her mother was recovering from cancer and her father has dementia. Renu is in her thirties. Problems forced her mother to bring her to the Home. The parents live in a city, the mother is a teacher. They live in a close relative’s apartment when they come here to see their daughter. The relative lives abroad. Due to the pandemic classes are online so they have been living here since last March. In spite of all problems Renu’s mother takes her home for a day atleast once a week. Her helplessness has  parted her from her daughter.
There are so many different types of people and human nature never ceases to surprise.

( names changed)


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20 responses to “Day 3 of the March SOLSC #Sol 21”

  1. Your post makes me think about how hard it can be to be human. Thank you for seeing and being with people that others may not see. Thank you for helping me to remember.

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  2. It is so good of you to spend time with those that not many care about and it’s hard to understand why sometimes their relatives care for them and sometimes they don’t. Human nature can be both compassionate and cruel, unfortunately.

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  3. How difficult to see these people with all their problems so regularly. And to always see Rekha’s heart break. It is so generous of you to visit these people so regularly.

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  4. “the brother and his wife will be punished in some way”….well, the Americans say that “what goes around comes around” and the Buddhists call it karma. Just wait until the brother and his wife need looking after when they are old.

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    1. Yes,it is Karma and we believe in it. We also believe that we may have to pay for our deeds in this life only.

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  5. It breaks my heart to hear Rekha’s story. It is good that you get to visit her. I wish I can do likewise as it is one of the corporal works of mercy for Christians. But more than just fulfilling my duties, I feel for her and people like her.

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  6. Your last line says it all: “There are so many different types of people and human nature never ceases to surprise.”
    Kevin

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  7. Good Karma for you – but I am sure that is not why you are helping here.

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    1. No Derrick 🙂 I like going there and it felt good when most of the recognised me after such a long time. I feel we should do something because we want to do it.

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      1. Exactly – and I knew that would be your reason

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  8. You are a wonderful person to do what you do! It inspires me to do even more, so now I will think of some way! Thank you for being such an inspiration!

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  9. This story is so sad. People are not items to be cast aside because they are not what we want in our lives. God bless you and all those who are there showing people that they matter and are cared for.

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  10. Lakshmi, The contrast between these two families is big! I have had family and friends living in Long Term Care and even visiting them means so much. I can’t imagine not visiting or taking my person home once in a while.

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  11. A good friend learned as an adult that she had been adopted to “replace” a daughter who had been placed at birth in a hope for “imbeciles.” They never saw her again, but my friend found her and developed a good relationship with her until the sister’s death. Yes she was slow, but she apparently loved cards and had a great sense of humor.

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    1. Your friend is very good person. People like her give us hope.

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      1. Yes, she definitely defied her adoptive parents and made a real connection.

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  12. Brian Rozinsky Avatar
    Brian Rozinsky

    What a contrast in these two stories that you retell. Thank you for sharing — and for caring as you do in this setting.

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  13. Your post struck me in a silent, beautiful way. You’re a lovely human being. Just observant and blatantly honest. I find you refreshing and I find your writing moving. Kudos to you for sharing this and you with the world… karma’s gonna catch that brother and his wife one day. No doubt about it.

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  14. San cassimally Avatar
    San cassimally

    You are so kind to take time off your own schedule to visit those unfortunate people. It is a shame that sometimes their own relatives wash their hands of them. That’s more common in Europe. Our people usually have more compassion. Greetings SAN

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    1. Thank you San. They have made my life richer.

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