Your Friday prompt for Stream of Consciousness Saturday is “drive.” Use it any way you’d like. Have fun!
Recently I was reading a commentary on The Gita by Swami Ranganathananda. I wanted to see what was written about ego. I read that among animals only humans have ego. If any other animal had an ego, we would not have been here. We were lucky 😊.
All of us want to be recognized and acknowledged. My father-in-law was ninety five when he passed away. In the last two or three years of his life he could not recognize most people. It seemed very sad because earlier he knew not only the person concerned but also their parents, grandparents and whom their siblings had married and how many children they had. I always wondered how he could remember such details. He was always interested in people. In his last years some people who came to see him would ask him if he recognized them. I used to tell them to introduce themselves but they did not like the idea. They believed they could not be forgotten !! Sometimes my father-in-law would agree that he recognized them but later he would tell us he had no idea who they were.
The same thing happened to my mother too. She would firmly tell such people that should not ask her to recognize them but should tell her who they were 😊. Some people have a bad habit. When they ask us if we recognize them and we say yes, immediately they tell us to identify them by name! I wonder what drives people to behave in such a manner? I have been in such situations. I do not forget people but I do forget their names!
Aravind has retinitis pigmentosa and recognizes people by their voices. Some people tell him who they are the moment they meet him. But there are others who ask him whether he recognizes them and they also insist that he should tell them who they are. They are unable to accept that he cannot recognize them. He tells me he finds it difficult to identify persons whom he meets rarely. A couple of years ago, at a family function, a cousin asked Aravind whether he recognized him. Aravind said he did not, and further added that he should not ask such questions but it would be more polite if he introduced himself. That person was so offended that he ignored Aravind the next few times they happened to be at the same social gatherings. Aravind did not know that he was being ignored but I did. Why do people have such big egos? Maybe their understanding of people, specially of those with disabilities is limited. They would become better human beings if they tried to understand others. Anyway, it gave me great satisfaction in ignoring that person. 😊 My EGO was at play too.