#SoCS June 12, 2021

Your Friday prompt for Stream of Consciousness Saturday is “drive.” Use it any way you’d like. Have fun!

Recently I was reading a commentary on The Gita by Swami Ranganathananda. I wanted to see what was written about ego. I read that among animals only humans have ego. If any other animal had an ego, we would not have been here. We were lucky 😊.

All of us want to be recognized and acknowledged. My father-in-law was ninety five when he passed away. In the last two or three years of his life he could not recognize most people. It seemed very sad because earlier he knew not only the person concerned but also their parents, grandparents and whom their siblings had married and how many children they had. I always wondered how he could remember such details. He was always interested in people. In his last years some people who came to see him would ask him if he recognized them. I used to tell them to introduce themselves but they did not like the idea. They believed they could not be forgotten !! Sometimes my father-in-law would agree that he recognized them but later he would tell us he had no idea who they were.

The same thing happened to my mother too. She would firmly tell such people that should not ask her to recognize them but should tell her who they were 😊. Some people have a bad habit. When they ask us if we recognize them and we say yes, immediately they tell us to identify them by name! I wonder what drives people to behave in such a manner? I have been in such situations. I do not forget people but I do forget their names!

Aravind has retinitis pigmentosa and recognizes people by their voices. Some people tell him who they are the moment they meet him. But there are others who ask him whether he recognizes them and they also insist that he should tell them who they are. They are unable to accept that he cannot recognize them. He tells me he finds it difficult to identify persons whom he meets rarely. A couple of years ago, at a family function, a cousin asked Aravind whether he recognized him. Aravind said he did not, and further added that he should not ask such questions but it would be more polite if he introduced himself. That person was so offended that he ignored Aravind the next few times they happened to be at the same social gatherings. Aravind did not know that he was being ignored but I did.  Why do people have such big egos? Maybe their understanding of people, specially of those with disabilities is limited. They would become better human beings if they tried to understand others. Anyway, it gave me great satisfaction in ignoring that person. 😊 My EGO was at play too.

By Lakshmi Bhat

I am a person who believes there is not enough darkness in the world to extinguish the light of a small candle. We live in a small place in South India. I love reading, blogging, stitching, traveling, photography, listening to people and many other things which make life so very nice and interesting. Blogging is a fun experience, it has brought me into contact with people in different parts of the world and it is good to read about their everyday life. In spite of the differences there is a sameness which is fascinating. I have learnt and am learning something everyday. I have learnt to write haikus. I enjoy combining the thought and the number of syllables. I have always read books and I was happy to write short fiction. I had thought I would not be able to do so. Stream of Consciousness and photo challenges are fun too. Yes, there is so much in life that is sad and that hurts us. Many a time I wonder why life is so unfair to so many. We all have problems in life but the problems of many seems unbearable. This makes me feel so helpless. It is not possible to help everyone but we can do our bit, we can do something to help some in whatever way we can. I used to go to the Home for the Mentally challenged in our campus twice a week. I have been going there since 2011. The members are an important part of my life. Covid-19 has made it difficult for me to go there regularly. Hopefully I will be able to go there again. There have been many challenges in life and we have faced them with a positive approach. Our grandson and granddaughter have made life so much more richer.

8 comments

  1. I hate it when people do that. They ask do you know them and when we reply yes so as to spare them any hurt, they ask us to identity them. It’s a horrible predicament. No one should do that to anyone in their old age or people who will have trouble identifying them. Handling egos is very tough indeed especially if they’re exceedingly fragile.

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  2. Actions through ego comes as the situation is filtered by perceptions of the reality and not the actual reality. This took quite some time for me to understand. In these cases help only when asked for explicitly else ignore.

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