Everyday Moments (#SOL-2022)

20-09-2022

My father passed away on 19th September 2016. Six years! He suffered from dementia and was bed ridden for eight months. It was tragic. Why does it happen? We are lucky if we remain physically and mentally health till the end. My mother is 81, she forgets many things, but I am always glad that I do not see a blank look in her eyes. She walks regularly and reads books. We have made a list of her daily activities and she follows them without fail. She says we have to do our best and leave the rest to God. I too believe in that.

On the 17th we went to our village to spend a day with my brother-in-law. We usually go there once a month. My brother-in-law lives alone. But his cousin comes every night to sleep. Both are bachelors. Friday morning, he had gone to the areca garden which is at a lower level to get some areca and coconuts. He was away for 45 minutes and in that time, thieves entered the house, searched in the cupboards and taken away about Rs 4000. Fortunately, they did not come when he was at home. What if they had beaten him? Later we came to know that another house had been robbed.

A lot of drama has been happening in our extended family concerning a ritual. Mahalaya, worship of ancestors is observed in our country from 11th to the 25th of this month. During this period, we remember our ancestors and offer prayers. Usually, families and extended families gather for the rituals. This ritual has not been performed in our family for some years because no one was willing to ask the senior-most cousin if he was interested. We managed to contact him, he said he was not interested.  Then another cousin took the initiative, talked to the family priest and a decision was taken. According to certain rules, the youngest in the family can sit for the rituals and represent the whole family. According to our customs, this ritual is very important, and people believe if they are not performed regularly, problems will occur. So, faith and fear are important aspects of our religious lives,

Sunday evening went to EndPoint for a walk. Our town is on a hill, and Endpoint is at one end. Vehicles are not allowed beyond one point and there is a rainwater harvested lake on one side and it looks beautiful. We see a lot of birds too. Even in May, long after the rains have stopped, there is some water in the lakebed. It helps the groundwater.

I am listening to Silas Marner on Librivox. And in another  interesting book I am reading letters written by Napolean to his wife, Josephine. It is an interesting world. A few days ago, we were talking to our granddaughter by WhatsApp video call. She was sitting on her mother’s lap. Sadje’s photo reminded me of  the bond between a mother and child. We told Kavya we wanted her to be with us, immediately she was ready to come here through the camera of the phone 😊. That was something to smile about. A few years ago, her brother had done the same.

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Which Way photo challenge – September 16

By Lakshmi Bhat

I am a person who believes there is not enough darkness in the world to extinguish the light of a small candle. We live in a small place in South India. I love reading, blogging, stitching, traveling, photography, listening to people and many other things which make life so very nice and interesting. Blogging is a fun experience, it has brought me into contact with people in different parts of the world and it is good to read about their everyday life. In spite of the differences there is a sameness which is fascinating. I have learnt and am learning something everyday. I have learnt to write haikus. I enjoy combining the thought and the number of syllables. I have always read books and I was happy to write short fiction. I had thought I would not be able to do so. Stream of Consciousness and photo challenges are fun too. Yes, there is so much in life that is sad and that hurts us. Many a time I wonder why life is so unfair to so many. We all have problems in life but the problems of many seems unbearable. This makes me feel so helpless. It is not possible to help everyone but we can do our bit, we can do something to help some in whatever way we can. Due to the pandemic I could not go to the Home for the mentally challenged for two years. I had been going there since 2011. I have started going again. I was happy that some members remembered me :) All of them are an important part of my life. There have been many challenges in life and we have faced them with a positive approach. Our grandson and granddaughter have made our lives richer.

22 comments

  1. A line that sticks with me is:
    I am reading letters written by Napolean to his wife, Josephine. It is an interesting world.
    I feel when I read your writing, I am reading about an interesting world. The rituals, the natural surroundings are so interesting, as if it is another time and place because it is so different than my USA life. However, one similarity is crime. It happens here, too. So glad your family member is physically OK but still a worry and a violation that sticks with a person.
    Thanks for sharing here about your interesting world!

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  2. I really enjoy your slice of life. The rituals may vary from country to country, but many things are constants. Like family, food, appreciation of landscapes etc …

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  3. Little kids can’t comprehend distance, unfortunately. My granddaughter acts the same when we talk on FaceTime, but we’ve never met in person yet. It’s on my bucket list to make the trip to Ohio some day.
    I found a tiny book in my mother-in-law’s things when she passed away. It was Silas Marner! I knelt it and can’t wait to read it knowing you are too. That’s so cool!
    I’m so sorry your brother was robbed. What an invasion of privacy.

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  4. Grief anniversaries can be so difficult. I am truly sorry your father suffered so. I am also sorry about the robbery. I am thankful your brother was not at home.

    Your photos are beautiful. We also video chat with our granddaughter. She thinks I can smell things through the video. 😊

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  5. Technology is amazing in that it allows us to see and be with loved ones even though we are separated by miles. That is a difficult concept for young ones to understand. I am sorry to heat that your brother-in-law was robbed, bud thankful to hear he was not harmed.

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  6. Youn are right that we will probably have a difficult road for the last few months of our lives at least. As you say, it is sensible to do our best and leave the rest to God. With God’s help, everything will be fine.

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  7. Thank-you for sharing Lakshmi. So much to take in here. Your own personal journey is rich and full of reflections. Your observations and insights into your culture were fascinating. It was so sad to hear about your father. Dementia is cruel and unforgiving. I’m sorry Lakshmi

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  8. Oh, that Endpoint is gorgeous, breathtaking. I’m so glad your brother-in-law and his cousin were fine, but I’m sorry about the burglary. I hate that that has to happen. Peace to you on the anniversary of your father’s death. I like your wisdom of your mom, “Do our best and leave the rest to God.”

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  9. I’m intrigued by the ancestral worship rituals and wonder if they give one a sense of place and belonging. My stepmother had dementia. It’s a cruel disease. All the things you chronicle here remind me how random life can be.

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  10. I am sorry about the theft in your B I L’s home. I hope he keeps the doors locked when he is at home . How old is he? He should probably have someone during the day also attending on him, Hope he has a good phone that he can contact the police immediately. Do you have an emergency number like we have here (911), which immediately alerts the police about a problem.

    Beautiful photos of the rain water lake.

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  11. It is so interesting to read about life and death and customs, families and activities in another part of the world. I feel your pain and concern as you care for your 81 year old mom (especially after the death of your dad). I am 82 (or is it 83?). At this stage of life, it is so important to keep active both mentally and physically. I’m glad you go by to encourage your mom. I’m glad she enjoys reading. That’s such a good way to keep the brain alive! Give her a greeting from another older, but young at heart, lady, ok? ❤️🙏🏽🥰

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