Day 24 March SOLSC! #SOL23 

On the 21st of this month we performed the death anniversary rituals for my father-in-law. After the rites lunch is eaten on banana leaves. On such occasions we sit on rectangular wooden planks kept on the floor. This is traditional seating in villages.  We have a banana plant in our garden but there were not enough leaves. We bought some from the vegetable shop.

After the batter and gourd pieces are steamed

Later I saw that we had bought more than necessary. I did not want to waste the leaves, so I made bottle gourd kottige. It is a kind of vegetable idli. Batter is made from rice and pieces of bottle gourd are added to the mixture. We spread the mixture in banana leaves, fold them so that the batter stays in place. Then steam them in an idli making vessel which we call attinalage in Kannada. We steam them for an hour in the evening and re-heat them in the morning before breakfast.

Homemade butter is a good combination for kottige. We eat curds every day for lunch and dinner. I set them at home. Every morning I remove the cream and store it in a vessel in the fridge. When it is full, I churn the cream in the mixer. The liquid that is left is buttermilk. I use it as stock in certain curries.  Long back curd was churned manually. There is very beautiful photograph of my husband’s grandmother churning curds. It was taken by my father-in-law’s younger brother.

Buttermilk and butter

There is very popular food channel called Bhat n Bhat in Kannada. It is hosted by two brothers and their family belonging to our community. Their recipes and videos are followed by hundreds of thousands of people. People of South India who live abroad write very nostalgic comments on their YouTube videos. Yesterday they showed how to make Olan. It is curry made with ash gourd and coconut milk. There was Ash gourd at home, and I made it today. We all liked the taste.

Olan curry

Our grandchildren loved all the gifts. Kavya said very enthusiastically “yes!!” when I asked her if she liked the mat. I was thrilled.

Coconut milk – Wikipedia


By Lakshmi Bhat

I am a person who believes there is not enough darkness in the world to extinguish the light of a small candle. We live in a small place in South India. I love reading, blogging, stitching, traveling, photography, listening to people and many other things which make life so very nice and interesting. Blogging is a fun experience, it has brought me into contact with people in different parts of the world and it is good to read about their everyday life. In spite of the differences there is a sameness which is fascinating. I have learnt and am learning something everyday. I have learnt to write haikus. I enjoy combining the thought and the number of syllables. I have always read books and I was happy to write short fiction. I had thought I would not be able to do so. Stream of Consciousness and photo challenges are fun too. Yes, there is so much in life that is sad and that hurts us. Many a time I wonder why life is so unfair to so many. We all have problems in life but the problems of many seems unbearable. This makes me feel so helpless. It is not possible to help everyone but we can do our bit, we can do something to help some in whatever way we can. Due to the pandemic I could not go to the Home for the mentally challenged for two years. I had been going there since 2011. I have started going again. I was happy that some members remembered me :) All of them are an important part of my life. There have been many challenges in life and we have faced them with a positive approach. Our grandson and granddaughter have made our lives richer.


  1. Thank you for sharing these rituals and traditions. It is beautiful to honor grief with this tradition of “death anniversary”, family gathering together. Loved learning about the banana leaves and all the yummy foods that connect.

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  2. You write so beautifully about the foods and rituals you love. I feel like sometimes I cook without cherishing the food, the fact that I have food to cook. Thank you for encouraging me to think differently.

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  3. Your life shared here, the death anniversary celebration, the photos of banana leaves as perfect cooking envelopes, the beautiful gift mat—these are so special, personal; they make everything hopeful, honorable. Thank you for this.

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